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Smart Career Strategy: Layoff Self-Defense

Because there's no such thing as a permanent job


12 Ways You're Sabotaging Your Career

Avoid these bad work habits


1. Criticizing your boss.

Whispering behind his back, carping to her face, or making your supervisor out to be wrong, pathetic, or inept puts you in the danger zone, Hepler says. "If you're doing this, don't expect to land a promotion or last there."

2. Acting as if you can't learn anything new.

Putting yourself out there as a know-it-all not only earns you the label of arrogant and thwarts your ability to seize opportunities for growth and development, she explains.

3. Blaming others.

"Pointing fingers at somebody else because you lack necessary skills, experience, appropriate behaviors, or sound judgment causes others in your world to view you as disagreeable," says Hepler. "Unlikeable people rarely advance."

4. Wearing your emotions on your sleeve.

Going overboard with disruptive displays of anger, whines of frustration, and dramatic tears usually sends messages of warning to bosses, staff, and peers, she says. "People may conclude that you can't manage your feelings, and that's never a good thing."

5. Telling yourself you can't do something.

This is a mindset that positions you to shoot yourself in the foot. Convincing yourself that you can't accomplish a certain task or project guarantees that you will fail, warns Hepler.

6. Complaining.

"Chronic complainers generally focus on the problems at hand rather than on the potential solutions," she explains. "Instead of moaning about policies, processes, and people, accept what you cannot change or make recommendations for positive change."

7. Waiting for the 'perfect moment.'

"Quite bluntly, procrastinators don't do what needs to be done, when it ought to be done," says Hepler. "If you're holding out for ideal circumstances, be prepared to be seen as someone who is incapable of stepping up to the plate."

8. Viewing yourself as inferior.

Your lack of confidence is a recipe for career stagnation and discontent, she says. "Hesitation, passivity, and timidity are turnoffs to employers."

Of course, being too confident can also be detrimental.

9. Hating your current job.

Cynical feelings about your job impede both your desire and ability to show up and perform at the level for which you are paid. "You'd be wise to switch into neutral and concentrate on the tolerable aspects of your work," she suggests.

10. Believing you can't find a better job.

"Did you know that your beliefs drive your actions?" Hepler asks. "Believe and trust that right now you have skills and experience that somebody else needs and wants."

11. Choosing to remain silent.

Every time you decide to keep your innovative ideas to yourself, avoid asking clarifying questions, or accept poor company policy, you send the message that you're a doormat or largely disengaged, she says. "Typically, responsible and active participation is rewarded at work."

12. Coasting until retirement.

If you're in float mode, think about the legacy you want to leave behind, she suggests. " Others don't remember — or care about — what you accomplished last year when they observe your bare minimum effort now."

How to fix it
"It's difficult for most of us to recognize our sabotaging behaviors in the workplace," adds Hepler. "This is because we are human, and all human beings, regardless of job title or salary, have blinders."

"The best way to identify the habits and actions that hold us back is to seek input from folks we trust," she says. Schedule lunch with a colleague who interacts with you rather extensively every day. Create a comfortable conversational atmosphere and ask that individual to be honest with you. Explain how their observations can benefit both you and the organization at large.

Your Email Typos Reveal More About You Than You Realize

Typos: the true windows to the soul


Typos, he suggests, aren't just occasionally embarrassing mistakes — they're a window into our emotions.

When you talk to someone face to face, there are a lot of unintentional cues that let on how you really feel about something.

"It's very difficult to control all of your facial features," he points out. "We have unintentional displays. We grimace, we frown, we look away."

But none of that happens in email. Emotionally, it's "cheap," he says. "Things don't tend to slip through, because you can reread it before sending it."

For all its pitfalls, email affords us almost total control of our emotional presentation (even if we tend to misjudge what that presentation is).

So far, most of the research in email communication has focused on intentional cues — capitalization, word usage, emoji. But Brodsky suggests that email contains unintentional emotional cues too.

Is it possible that our typos are giving our bosses, colleagues, partners, and mothers an unedited glimpse at our raw feelings?

The short answer: yes.

When Brodsky had test subjects read an angry email from a fictional sender, they saw that person as angrier when the note had typos. When he did the same with a joyful email, the results were the same: The typos made the sender come across as even more joyful.

Brodsky likens typos to "putting your fist in the air." They're an emotional amplifier. "In a situation where someone should be proud, if they have their fist in the air, it makes them seem even more proud," he says. "If they're angry, it makes them seem more angry."



But before you start amplifying all your emotions — emmotions? — consider that unmediated authenticity comes at a cost.

While people saw the senders as having stronger feelings, they also saw them as less intelligent. "Typos suggested to email readers that sender's decisions and actions were being driven by emotion rather than deliberate cognition," Brodsky wrote in last year's "Academy of Management Annual Meeting Proceedings."

It's possible, though, that there may be a time and a place for a strategic typo or two. "I haven't tested a situation yet where there are clear benefits to using typos over the intelligence loss," he says, but theoretically the idea makes sense.

If emailed emotions come cheap, then in cases where the benefits of seeming authentic would outweigh the benefits of seeming smart, wouldn't the occasional typo make you come across as being even more sincere? Condolences, for example, or enthusiastic congratulations.

As he notes in the Harvard Business Review, the fact that you'll seem less smart is what makes you seem authentic. "What makes errors so believable is that they make you seem less competent: Why would someone ever make a typo if they were trying to impress me?"

That's part of the reason that particularly powerful people come off as even more likable when they make occasional mistakes. They're human, like us.