As the world becomes more interconnected, separating one's
professional and personal lives is harder than ever. Many people still
aspire to "leave their jobs at work," but not everyone is successful.
While some jobs explicitly demand around-the-clock availability and
others come to a full stop when the workday ends, many of us have a hard
time knowing where, when -- and even whether -- to draw the line.
Here are three questions that can help you achieve a work-life balance that's right for you.
1. What are you doing?
A close look at your day-to-day habits can yield surprising results. You might be spending much more time in a marginally productive "half-work" state than you realize.
A close look at your day-to-day habits can yield surprising results. You might be spending much more time in a marginally productive "half-work" state than you realize.
For a week, keep track of all your work-related activities, including
seemingly negligible tasks. Be inclusive and honest. Do you check your
phone in the locker room at the gym just in case there are messages from
colleagues? Do you keep your laptop on the bedroom nightstand so you
can get a head start on the next day?
Any time you spend talking or even thinking about work problems isn't
downtime -- and therefore isn't truly restful. The resulting tiredness
of being perpetually in work mode can create a snowball effect, making
you less productive during business hours and necessitating further
catch-up work after hours.
2. Why are you doing it?
Remaining at least partially available before or after the standard workday may be an understood aspect of your job. But in many cases, the extra duty is self-imposed, driven not by business necessity but by pride in being considered a go-to person. Another common motivator, justified or not, is fear about falling behind "more committed" colleagues.
Remaining at least partially available before or after the standard workday may be an understood aspect of your job. But in many cases, the extra duty is self-imposed, driven not by business necessity but by pride in being considered a go-to person. Another common motivator, justified or not, is fear about falling behind "more committed" colleagues.
Keep in mind that your habits can influence others' behavior.
Answering an early morning text from a co-worker may make him more
likely to text you in the future instead of asking someone else or
holding his question until business hours.
If you're unsure what's expected of you, or of how accessible you
need to be after hours, discuss the matter with your boss. You might
learn that she'd rather have you fully recharge between workdays than
stay within reach around the clock.
3. What's your top priority?
Just about everyone wants to enjoy a relaxing personal life and a rewarding career. It's entirely possible to have both. But in order to achieve the balance that works best for you, it's helpful to ask yourself which, ultimately, is most important. The answer may change throughout your lifetime as your career and personal life evolve. Your priorities may shift as you start a family or embark on a career that has a sharper learning curve, for instance.
Just about everyone wants to enjoy a relaxing personal life and a rewarding career. It's entirely possible to have both. But in order to achieve the balance that works best for you, it's helpful to ask yourself which, ultimately, is most important. The answer may change throughout your lifetime as your career and personal life evolve. Your priorities may shift as you start a family or embark on a career that has a sharper learning curve, for instance.
If you're passionate about your work, don't dismiss the possibility
that it may become all-encompassing. For you, the work may be its own
reward. If you do maintain a highly permeable work-life border, taking
real (no-laptop-allowed) vacations becomes even more important as a way
to prevent burnout.
Once you've reviewed your habits, discussed expectations with your
boss and clarified your priorities, start adjusting the borders that
surround your work. Doing so can take some practice, and you may have to
endure some feelings of guilt or even boredom when you first
disconnect.
Establishing the simplest rules possible can help you stick with your
plan. For example, you might avoid checking your work email after 7
p.m. or go completely offline on weekends. Be sure to discuss changes
with your boss before making them, emphasizing that you're looking to
protect your performance, not to unload responsibilities.
If your job requires you to be on call, make sure people know how to
reach you in the event of a crisis. That way, you can be more secure
knowing that if they need to reach you, they will. You don't have to
check every email.
Ideally, protecting your time off in a sensible way will help you not
only start enjoying downtime more but also start having more fun at
work. Before long, you might even find that your career and personal
life begin to nourish each other, rather than just competing for your
time.